Today I am going to discuss some side issues of a crime that
took place in Atlanta a few days ago. I
won’t be mentioning any names because quite frankly the names don’t
matter. A few days ago, a woman was
found unconscious in her kitchen after being strangled and with wounds to her
face. Upon entering the home, the police
knew immediately that her 4 year old son was missing and presumed to be with
the Dad and the Dad is their first suspect.
The Dad and the child was later found in a shallow grave dead from what
looked like an apparent murder suicide.
Now, the side issue that I want to discuss is that of
domestic violence. It never ceases to
amaze me how many women stay with a man that abuses them. I have been a single mom most of my kids’
lives and as hard as it has been to be a single mom, I would choose that over
being battered any day. Sure I had men
from time to time, but in the end, they couldn’t either accept me or they
couldn’t accept my kids and that is when I knew to draw the line. These men didn’t provide anything to the home
that I wasn’t already providing and I couldn’t see why I needed to put up with
a bunch of fussing if it wasn’t meant to be.
Women need to grow up and learn to take responsibility for
what is theirs. Ladies, I realize that
it takes 2 to make a baby and in a perfect world, two people should and would
raise that baby; but there are just some men that are not up for the challenge
and since you are the one that brought that baby into this world … by all
means, I see it as your responsibility to raise that baby. I realize that with that last statement, I
have made a lot of women mad and that is alright … but common sense tells you
that you could have put it up for adoption or aborted it … you say you don’t
believe in those choices, I ask you then what is the alternatives: live in an abusive relationship forcing a guy
to be somewhere where both of you are not happy … oh yeah, that is very healthy
for all concerned.
Think about it, if the man abuses you, what in your right
mind tells you that he would never abuse the kids? It is only common sense that the older the
child or children get, the more likely the abuse will start on them. So, am I am to assume that this is healthier
for the baby than adoption or abortion under the pretense that at the time, you
thought you could make it work. Let’s
face it, you know shortly after meeting someone if they are abusive or
not. If it doesn’t show its head with the
two of you, then you know very shortly after becoming pregnant that he isn’t
going to take to fatherhood very well and he begins to show his temper in the
little things.
My point is this, there are always red flags and we have to
learn to look for the flags and we have to do whatever is necessary to protect that
child. If he is showing a red flag of
having a temper when it really isn’t anything to lose your temper over, then
move on for the child’s sake. Why on
earth would you stay? No, not all the
cases end like the one I described above, but I have to wonder, how many times
did she know he had a temper and would fly into a rage before this incident
happened? Would that poor baby be alive
today if she had paid closer attention to the small red flags? I am sure in that sweet things four years of
life, his Daddy had already showed his Mommy that he had a temper and she
should have used that opportunity to run.
To run fast … to run real fast.
